Can declaration lead to failure?



Do you ever feel like you need this grand beginning to something?  You shout out, or in today’s age tweet out, that you are starting something new.

“Today is the first day I start eating healthy!”

“I got a new gym membership!”

“I’m going to start my new business!”

“I’m going to post something new every day!”

Then what happens?  If you’re like me you get to about day four of whatever you prophesied as your new routine and you fizzle out.  Why is it I wonder?  If you came here hoping I had the answer then you came to the wrong place.  Sorry!  I have been thinking about this and processing it though.  I think I find for me though, while declaring it seems like what is going to make me commit, just starting something is where I find success.  I told myself I was going to write about this and write about something else separately, but I think I will just combine them into this one thought.

It was about this very week four years ago that I started Crossfit.  I didn’t declare it.  I don’t think I posted about it on social media.  I had been watching videos about it for about a year, prior to signing up, out of interest. Then one day while on the internet sitting in a bookstore I signed up for the free into.  It wasn’t until then I frantically texted one friend and admitted what I’d done.  If you know me at all or follow me on social media then you know how much this sport and community has meant to me.  It’s literally been life changing.  I don’t say that to convince people to choose the route I did.  That’s just what it has been for me.

To go back to my original point though I never stuck my flag into the ground and proclaimed that I was going to be there for the next four years.  That day I just made a decision because for at least that day that is something I wanted to be as a part of my story.  I’m not saying to not have a goal or not to be held accountable or not to commit to something.  I just wonder if sometimes some of us can be declarative addicts.  I think I will confess my addiction or at least my draw to it.

I heard someone say once in a conversation that we can get the same high from just saying we’re going to do something as we do when we actually achieve something.  The problem is that when we don’t achieve it the depression sets in along with the feeling of failure.

An author I love talked about in a workshop I attended about the things we do telling a story.  Think about the story you want to tell when you are at the end of your life.  Is the decision you are making in this moment going to help tell that story or does it possibly take you further away from the story you want to tell with your life.  I think this is something all of us have to revisit every morning.  The slightest undetected shift in the winds of life can take us unknowingly in the wrong direction for a long time before we realize it.  We constantly need to be reevaluating the course and if it’s still the course we want to be on.

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